Dating is Like the Stock Market

This is kind of interesting - and not from E-Harmony!
Today's metaphor is a favorite. Dating is Like the Stock Market - And Why You Should Always Invest. Here are the three lessons I've learned from the nation's recession:

Lesson # 1: Don't get too depressed about the things you can't control.

Do you know anybody who's doing great in this economy? I don't. But there wasn't much you could have done differently. Where should you have put your investments instead? Under your mattress?

Dating is the same way. It's easy to feel bad when you have a crush that's not reciprocated, when you write an email that gets ignored, or when you sleep with someone who's not seriously interested. But, for the most part, rejection doesn't occur because you've done anything wrong. It generally happens because someone else just isn't "feeling it" - same thing as when you reject others.

Let go of your sadness and realize that two people are involved in any date - and you can only control one of them.

Lesson #2: Don't invest in volatile stocks.

Some funds have strong fundamentals and are rated five-star "buys" by Morningstar. Then there are the hot stock tips pushed by a friend who has something to gain. And if you're going to invest in a "hot stock" that hasn't been proven, you're likely to lose your entire investment.

Do you live your love life this way?

Always looking for someone better on paper: younger, cuter, smarter, wealthier, more impressive? Has it occurred to you that the very people you've spent a lifetime chasing are NOT as great as they seem? That's right - they're volatile stocks - ones that look great on the surface, but aren't great long-term investments.

If you find yourself constantly on the chase for that "feeling", that passion, that high, you are a classic example of someone who tends to invest in risky stocks.

And until you start finding the appeal of a safe bond fund, you may wonder why your life savings are constantly being frittered away.

Lesson #3: You've got to be in it to win it.

Sure, you can complain about the volatility. But, at the end of the day, if you want to achieve anything greater than 1% earnings in your savings account, you have to invest your money in the market.

Same with your love life. It's easy to sit on the sidelines and claim that you're content with the status quo. There's no rejection when you're watching TiVo. There's no heartbreak on spa weekends or NFL Sundays. There's no confusion about the opposite sex when you're hanging with your closest friends and family.

There's also no upside. There's no possibility. There's no risk.

By not making an effort to date frequently, you are choosing "safe solitude". With "safe solitude", nobody's heart gets broken, and nothing ever changes.

That's not how love works. In the world of love, you willingly have to assume risk.

To go on dates, you have to put yourself out there, online and off.

To be successful on dates, you have to deal with the fact that not everybody's going to want to see you again.

To turn your dates into relationships, you have to take the chance of being hurt by someone you care about.

So ask yourself:

• Are you honestly putting yourself out there?
  
• Do you truly understand the behaviors of the opposite sex?
  
• Are you regularly getting practice at dating and getting more effective at it?
  
• Are you actually making enough of an effort to find love that someone could fall for you, and also potentially hurt you?
  

If you answered no to any of those questions, it's no surprise your love life isn't in order. You're playing it safe. You're risking nothing and wondering why you're not getting rich.

Understand: taking a risk in love is not risky behavior. Risky behavior is doing the same thing you're doing now. And although it's unpopular to say, the reason you're not in love right now isn't just because you haven't met the right person. That's only a fraction of it.

It's because you haven't been meeting people consistently.
It's because you spend all your time working and none of it searching for love.
It's because you invest in the wrong people instead of opening up to the right people.

I need a new broker

Me too...

I just want to see somebody bare

you want I should send you pics TEE???

I never turn down mail from friends. Silly Man