So many men - so little time!

Dear Auntie,
I'm up there in age - 47 - and would really like to find someone to share life with.
I don't have to - would just prefer to.
So, I signed up for a dating website, and have been contacted by bunches of local guys.
I've gone out on a few dates - and these are nice fellas.
But...I have also been in contact for over a year with a man I have never met. We have become strong online friends, as you know can happen. Also, he has been layed off of his job (lives in OH), and will be looking for work here in MN to give us a chance.
My dilema - I don't know if he will really find work here and I think he would want a job here before making the move.
I have made no promises as once we actually meet - there might not be the same draw we feel as online friends.
Otherwise, we have tons in common and he is a good man. I'm not in love by any means though.
Part of me feels "time is awasting" and I should just go ahead and date locally and don't owe him anything.
Another part of me feels we have invested a lot of time and energy into each other and should I be giving it more of a chance.
I'm a nice girl (I HEARD that BOB)...and have no desire to break any hearts.
What say you Auntie?
Sincerely,
Lookin' for love in all the wrong places?

No...not at all scared or worried about taking a chance with the online friend.
More concerned about meeting someone local meanwhile and missing out on "what could have been" with the online guy. Really, I'm kinda overwhelmed with dating offers and that has never happened to me before. I feel kind of distracted!

Theresa dear friend, I am not surprised you have all these date offers, you are one hell of a woman and a very lovely person.
The guy you have known for over a year but have not met, well I believe you can not put your life on hold waiting for maybe, you know what it's like you have to try on a lot of bra's before you find the perfect fit.
I say get out and have some fun and see what develops, but don't settle for anything less that what you so deserve.
Get this other guy on FB so we can vet him! lol (only jokin)

Theresa wrote:

Dear Auntie,
I'm up there in age - 47 - and would really like to find someone to share life with.
I don't have to - would just prefer to.
So, I signed up for a dating website, and have been contacted by bunches of local guys.
I've gone out on a few dates - and these are nice fellas.
But...I have also been in contact for over a year with a man I have never met. We have become strong online friends, as you know can happen. Also, he has been layed off of his job (lives in OH), and will be looking for work here in MN to give us a chance.
My dilema - I don't know if he will really find work here and I think he would want a job here before making the move.
I have made no promises as once we actually meet - there might not be the same draw we feel as online friends.
Otherwise, we have tons in common and he is a good man. I'm not in love by any means though.
Part of me feels "time is awasting" and I should just go ahead and date locally and don't owe him anything.
Another part of me feels we have invested a lot of time and energy into each other and should I be giving it more of a chance.
I'm a nice girl (I HEARD that BOB)...and have no desire to break any hearts.
What say you Auntie?
Sincerely,
Lookin' for love in all the wrong places?

Dear LFL,
As we get closer to certain age milestones in life (30 40 50) we feel we should be at a certain place or have certain things accomplished, only natural. I can't say I would never move to a different place w/o a job, I did it many yrs ago w/3 kids under the age of 4, and thankfully it all worked out. But, and its a big but( insert Your own joke), in this economy, I think Your friend would be much better off economically & emotionally(no worries or stress) if He had employment lined up before moving to Minnesota. That doesn't mean You two can't spend some time getting to know one another when He is in on interviews. There is always the possibility that You make better friends than lovers or mates, life is a gamble, & that its half the excitement to it. As long as there have been ground rules set before He gets there, then (hopefully) there should be no problems. As far as going out on other dates & meeting Men, whats the diff if You stop doing that beacuse You're afraid of missing a what might of been w/Mr.Ohio? Its the same situation, what if Ohio isn't the "one" what if one of these new found Guys is the one? You'd be missing out on them. You only break hearts if You set out to do so. As far as this "getting up there" at 47, Auntie is sending You a cyber smack to the head, at 48 I still have that wonderful Mother's backhand. Enjoy the journey in finding life & what it has to offer, but its nice to know You won't feel any less "complete" if You don't find another companion to finish the trip.

TC all I can tell you is to go by what your heart tells you I was there at one time and had a hard time making a decision but finally I think I made the right one. You will have to make that one too.

You all are great!
Life is way too short to play "what if?"

This is one that I just have to trust God with.
I reckon he has someone in mind for me - just wish he could tag the fella with red paint so's I know!

So if I paint myself red I got a shot?????

With Your luck Bob, people will take it for a bull's eye

Sorry, I am just now seeing this but want to add my 2 cents .

I totally 100% agree with the other views here about "what might have been". You simply CANNOT pass up a single date b/c of someone you only know online. There are way too many "what if's" that factor in here. You owe this OH man nothing other than to let him be in the dating pool if he moves closer to you. There maybe someone perfect for you right down the street and you could never meet over someone who may never move. That's be nuts!

In a book I recently read..."How to Find a Date Worth Keeping"; the author talks about looking at dating as the way to find out what/who you don't want. Look at it as going out with a potential new friend...someone to get to know and to get to know even more about what you want. OH can fit that picture as well as MN guys. Go out and have fun with as many as possible. If OH still wants to pursue you, then he will know you are worth the effort. I think he'll respect you for it too.

I agree
I myself plan on dating as many women as possible,as often as possible.

Several in the same night if i can. Several at the same time is not out of the realm of possibilities

In fact I might even go pro and charge for my services




the more the merrier I say

Back on topic and back to the protaganist of the thread...

Just how many men exactly are we talking about here?????

Who / what are you asking Cammo man?
This thread started Loooooong ago!

thought I might see something like.....I found him..the one and only man I want..or something...but oh well